We are in the Hebrew month of Adar, the month of happiness and joy.
I am not a Chabad Jew, a sect of Jews whose focus in life is happiness and strict observance to Torah and its 613 mitzvot (laws/commandments). But I find a lot of beauty and inspiration in Chabad and its followers.
At every new moon, Jewish women celebrate by gathering together, reading Torah, or in the Rosh Chodesh (new moon) group I belonged to in NYC, to share stories and frustrations while TTC, trying to put a Jewish angle to it. All of those women have children and here I am, not pregnant. Though, hopefully soon I will be!
So I was clicking around finding things about Adar, this Hebrew month and came across this from a Chabad site:
This month, Adar l, is an added month in the Jewish leap year. This year is a shanah meuberet (lit., “a pregnant year”), more commonly known as a leap year, on the Jewish calendar. The Jewish leap year, which occurs 7 times in a 19-year cycle, has 13 months instead of the regular year’s 12. This is so that the lunar-based Jewish year (which is 354.37 days) should remain aligned with the solar year (365.25 days) and seasons. It is important to keep the calendars aligned in order for the festivals to retain their positions relative to the seasons as prescribed by the Torah. The added month is called Adar I, and is inserted before the month of Adar (termed Adar II in leap years).
Adar is the official “happy month,” as is written, “As soon as Adar begins, increase in joy!” In a leap year, we have two months of extra happiness!
This is not a Jewish leap year, so there aren’t two Adars or a pregnant Adar, but it is Adar and therefore there is an increase in blessings and happiness during this time.
TTC is all about timing, as we know. The right time to start taking hormones, the right time to inseminate. Timing is even more vitally crucial for us LGBTQ folks who are TTC using IUI because we can’t simply keep doing it and hope it sticks (I know that’s not how it works for hetero couples either). We have to have the timing absolutely perfect make our babies.
So in this Jewish time of prescribed happiness, coupled with our insemination right smack in the middle of the month, I am feeling hopeful.
Today I started Femera. Praying for nice growth and hopefully after Monday two nice, open tubes.
Keeping all of you Mamas in waiting in my prayers.