Last night, after making an insane amount of really delicious latkes (Happy Hanukkah, everyone!) Leah and I sat down to discuss our TTC options for 2015.
KD-At home inseminations with his sperm (fresh and frozen)
AD-Move to IVF
So … we’re thinking of maybe trying at the same time. Which is either a really great idea or a really terrible idea. This is not a new idea, we’ve vaguely talked about it before and always ended at the conclusion that two pregnant women at the same time would be insane. We reasoned that it would be more beneficial for me to try first and for her to start trying when I was in my last trimester so that we could co-nurse and our children would be close in age. But that was two years ago when we weren’t staring 36 in the eye. Okay, we won’t be turning 36 for another 8 months or so, but it’s still there. Just waiting. Age and aging while TTC scares the living begeezus out of us, especially Leah. And I don’t feel like she’s disappointed in me that we haven’t gotten pregnant, I do feel like she really wants to get a shot at it, before it’s “too late”.
I, of course, don’t want to give up hope on my ovaries, eggs and uterus either, so it feels like tandem TTC or either really really closely planned TTC will be in our future.
Leah’s lucky. Her cycle is like clock work. She makes super, easy to identify, abundant CM. I, on the other hand, have only ovulated when stimulated, my left tube is blocked and I have non-cancerous tumors in my uterine lining. When I say it out loud, it seems like maybe it won’t happen for me and I do feel like I should step aside and let her try. And then when that feeling starts to seep itself into my psyche I snap out and proclaim that we have two uteri and we might as well use ’em.
So we’re looking at IVF for me, because we’ve already tried four unsuccessful cycles of IUI. I’m worried because of the cost and because we don’t have insurance.
So, no judgement, but anyone thought of tandem TTC?
Anyone who has done IVF without insurance, how did you pay for it?
It’s funny when I hear people kvetching about how costly children are, and believe me I know that raising kids is expensive. But by Gd, making them is expensive too. It sort of feels selfish of me to put this financial strain on our relationship, but the pull to be a mother and to have a child is too strong.
For Leah, we have found the perfect donor. He’s a friend of mine from Ohio, tall, handsome, smart. He agreed to be a KD for Leah before we moved and since we aren’t insured, it almost feels worth it to fly him out to make donations for us to use for in-home inseminations for her, as well as having frozen goods to use in the future.
So that’s an option. Any thoughts?